Sometimes a condition is a little more serious than just a love of sex or a high libido. It may be that the individual is experiencing a more complex issue, similar in nature to addictions to drugs or alcohol.
These people feel a certain ‘high’ during sex that is different to that experienced by couples in healthy relationships that is not attached to any kind of emotional connection or intimacy.
What is male hypersexuality?
The term ‘male hypersexuality’ refers to a clinical diagnosis of excessively high or frequent sexual urges or activity in men. This is different to simply having a high sex drive and is usually diagnosed by a mental health professional.
The effects of hypersexuality are caused by the biochemical or physiological occurrences within the body, in addition to psychological needs that may be related to a complication in the brain’s temporal lobe – the area that regulates an individual’s libido.
What are the symptoms of male hypersexuality?
There are multiple symptoms that may be a sign of male hypersexuality or sex addiction, so it’s important to note what they are and consider whether it may be time to seek further medical advice.
This is usually one of the first signs of male hypersexuality. Often, those who are addicted to sex will masturbate in combination with another sexual activity such as watching porn or calling a sex chat line.
Obsession with sex.
Thinking about sex frequently is normal for most men, and even women, however when it interferes with daily life, that’s a sign there’s a problem.
Excessive planning of sexual activities.
Those with hypersexuality will spend a significant amount of time considering their next sexual encounter, such as where and how it will occur and what will happen during.
Frequently using porn or adult services.
Addicts will use porn, sex phone lines, adult websites, webcam play or dating sites to get their fix when there’s no other alternative.
Regularly indulging in one night stands.
When experiencing hypersexuality, the individual is unlikely to care how they get sex or who they get to have it with, resulting in one night stands or using prostitutes.
Being unable to form an emotional attachment to sexual partners.
Men suffering from hypersexuality may find it difficult to develop an emotional connection with a partner as the sex will be the priority in their mind.
Not using protection during sex.
Those with the condition may often forget to use protection as they are too preoccupied by the act of sex itself.
Becoming obsessed with an unattainable partner.
Hypersexuality can often lead to obsession with a particular person, which may lead to stalking or harassment.
Engaging in paraphilias.
Paraphilias are sexual behaviours that go against the ‘normality’ of sex, including exhibitionism, voyeurism, masochism and sadism. It is common for people with hypersexuality to take an interest in one of more paraphilias.
However, it should be noted that not everyone who takes part in these acts has hypersexuality.
Not being able to stop.
Hypersexuality is an addiction and therefore it usually feels as if the person is unable to stop, despite their best efforts.
How can male hypersexuality be treated?
Different treatments work best for different people, so once you’ve been diagnosed with hypersexuality, you’ll then be recommended treatment depending on your current state. This may include one or several of the following:
Psychotherapy is an integral part of recovery from addiction. During therapy sessions, issues will be addressed such as negative thought patterns, internal conflict, self-awareness and unconscious issues that may have contributed to the addiction.
Group therapy allows a small number of people with hypersexuality to meet and discuss their experiences under the supervision of a trained therapist or counsellor. It can help them learn from each other and gain support from people who understand.
Family or Couples’ Therapy
Families and partners of someone suffering from hypersexuality may also be affected by their behaviour. Family or couples’ therapy allows them to meet with a therapist together and strengthen their relationships as healing begins.
Some medications are used to reduce the compulsive behaviour associated with hypersexuality, whilst others aim to target the hormones that may have led to the condition’s development.
The individual may also be prescribed medication to deal with the depression or anxiety that may accompany the disorder.
By using the list of symptoms to determine whether you may have male hypersexuality, you’ll be able to use your findings to get in touch with a trained health professional who will be able to provide a diagnosis and help you find the correct treatment plan for your specific needs.
In time, you may begin to find a way to deal with hypersexuality or sex addiction and live a normal sex life.